Digital Crave

What your technology choices tell her about you

Digital Crave

View photo

.
We've all seen this guy: Bluetooth device in his ear, phone holster on his belt, un-holstered phone on the dinner table.  You know what you rarely see with this guy? A woman.

That's because women notice the technology choices men make. It's not as simple as Apple versus Android (though opinions on brands run strong). Often how you use your technology sends her signals you didn't intend.

Some of these are obvious. Everyone (or mostly everyone) knows to turn off his or her phone in a movie theater. And most people agree that Apple products are hip. But did it ever occur to you to turn your phone off on a date?  It should.

I figured I knew it all on this subject. I consider myself a savvy guy when it comes to tech etiquette — "tech-i—quette." I don't even like to talk on my phone when I'm in line at the grocery store. It's rude. And I don't text in the movie theater because I know the light from the phone is distracting. Also, I've never been a holster man.  I assumed I was in the clear.

Then I started asking around. It turns out that the women I spoke to — from school teachers to television producers to stay-at-home-moms — had far more insight about what a man's technology says than I ever expected.

#1 Accessorize at your own risk

You'd be hard pressed to find someone without a mobile phone these days. They are ubiquitous. Like a NBA player without a tattoo, someone without a mobile phone is a unicorn. But it starts getting tricky when men buy accessories for their phones. Most women may not care about the brand, but they seem universally opposed to one item: The Bluetooth headset.

"I'm low maintenance - and I like low tech guys - unless you're at work. But the Bluetooth? Men who want to be connected to someone else all the time will not connect with me," said Tina, an artist living in Maryland.

"Can't we even say hello to one another at the coffee shop or while walking down the street? If your argument is 'I'm a busy man, I'm conducting business' you're either working too hard or need to get back to work."

#2 Know when to put your phone away.

True story: I was watching the evening news last week and the anchor had her mobile phone sitting on her desk. She was not waiting on a late-breaking Tweet. She was not quoting from a script written on the device. She just had it there, as so many of us do when we sit down at a bar or coffee shop. Someone must have noticed because the phone was gone after the first commercial break. You know who else notices when a phone is out but shouldn't be? Women.

"Take off the earpiece, no phone on the table during dinner — I don't care what phone it is. Holsters on the job site only," said Rebecca, a high school English teacher from Rhode Island.

Opinions varied, but the prevailing attitude as I asked a range of women about men and their toys was clear: If a man is too into his toys then he is not into his woman. So put the phone away at dinner.

#3 Is your man an iMan?

Some of the women polled didn't care what sort of tech a man carried. The ones who did care, however, are Apple freaks. They flew the flag immediately and it seemed to all come down to one thing: Style.

"I would say that I have the biggest 'oh no he didn't' reaction to Bluetooths and belt holsters. And I do like an iPhone on a man," said Lindsay, of Philadelphia.

The consensus: Apple is for cool kids, and people want to be cool — especially people who use tech for work and play. But what about the casual tech fiend? How do they see it?

Monica of Boston broke it down for me.  "iMac equals artsy and/or techy and both are OK. PC equals low-maintenance user. Good. Or gamer — run for my life!"

Which leads to one of the more surprising findings in this unofficial study. The problem of haters.

#4 Haters gonna hate

Haters in the video game world are well known. People swear by their Xbox or Playstation and have contempt for those who disagree. It's no surprise to find the same venom through the fangs of the Mac and PC crowd. But you'd think the proliferation of mobile devices and casual technology would escape such distinction. Not so.

"I'm a Machead but I don't mind what a guy uses — as long as he's not one of those irrational Apple haters," said Chris, a journalist living in Florida.

That's the funny thing about Apple products. They dominate the phone industry — at least as far as hype and product awareness is concerned — yet they're still considered cool. You would think there would be a surge of anti-Apple folks — a punk rock tech movement — raging against that machine. If it's out there, it's awfully quiet.

"I'm a Apple girl all the way. If a guy has a PC I will show him how great a Mac is," said Jeanette, of Rhode Island.
"I showed my fiancé and he was skeptical at first but now he says he would never buy a PC again. And he is now a Mac advocate himself."

Note: This was written by Victor Paul Alvarez, a Digital Crave contributor.

Sorry you didn't like this comment. Please provide a reason below.

Are you sure?
Rating failed. Try again.
Request failed. Try again.
We will promote constructive and witty comments to the top, so everyone sees them!
Sorry, we can’t load comments right now. Try again.

    Recommended for You

    • Fox News Host Brenda Buttner Dead at 55

      Brenda Buttner, host of the Fox News show Bulls and Bears, has died after a battle with cancer. She was 55.

      People
    • Trump's Russia scandal takes an unexpected turn

      On Friday afternoon, FBI Director James Comey delivered a classified, hour-long briefing to the Senate Intelligence Committee on the Russia scandal, and soon after, the Senate Intelligence Committee sent “formal requests to more than a dozen organizations, agencies and individuals, asking them to preserve all materials related to the committee’s investigation” into the controversy. We don’t know much about how the briefing went – committee members were tight-lipped following Comey’s presentation – though Sen. Marco Rubio (R-Fla.) tweeted late Friday that he’s “now very confident” that the committee will conduct “thorough bipartisan investigation” into Russia’s “interference and influence.” Reading

      MSNBC q
    • Dozens fired after skipping work to participate in 'A Day Without Immigrants' protests

      Across the U.S. employers fired hundreds of protestors who skipped work to participate in rallies.

      CNBC.com q
    • Milo Yiannopoulos Could Be Fired by Breitbart Over Pedophilia Comments (Report)

      Milo Yiannopoulos could stand to lose his job as editor at Breitbart News over newly unearthed comments he once made about pedophilia, the FOX Business Network reported. According to the financial network “there is a fierce internal debate at Breitbart over whether he should remain with the website over his latest comments,” with some at the right-wing site telling Fox News that Yiannopoulos could be dismissed as early as end of the day Monday. Yiannopoulos was disinvited from Conservative Political Action Conference (CPAC) on Monday after a video of him talking about pedophilia resurfaced over the weekend.

      The Wrap
    • UFC fighter asks for Ronda Rousey after knocking out her boyfriend

      Derrick Lewis brought up Travis Browne’s past domestic abuse allegations and took a step further when he brought up his opponent’s current girlfriend, the former UFC women’s bantamweight champion.

      Cagewriter
    • Doctor gets life in prison after intentionally botching spine surgery in Dallas County  | Courts

      They heard from Philip Mayfield, who cries when he thinks of all of his son's football games that he hasn't been able to watch because he often passes out from chronic pain, and Barry Morgaloff, who limps with a brace and a cane as a result of irreparable nerve damage in his spine. They heard from Jeff Cheney, who woke up paralyzed from the neck down on his right side, and Jackie Troy, who talks in a permanent whisper and almost died from an infection after she was left with puncture wounds in her throat after Duntsch performed neck surgery on her. "I'm just trying to stay focused and be thankful that I'm one of the lucky ones in this situation," said Troy, who's alive to talk about her encounter

      Dallas Morning News q
    • Melania Trump's sister shows rare behind-the-scenes look

      (CNN)Melania Trump is beginning to forge her own path as America's first lady, assembling a team of aides and advisers. But the name of one longtime confidante, and perhaps her most trusted friend, won't be announced with a news release or statement or a new title: her sister, Ines Knauss. Knauss, Trump's older sister, lives just blocks from Trump Tower in the Trump Park Avenue property, public records confirm. She was Trump's maid of honor at her 2005 Palm Beach wedding, People magazine reported at the time. And the first lady called Knauss "an incredible woman and a friend" in her July speech at the Republican National Convention. And the sister of the famously private Slovenian-born first

      CNN q
    • Elderly Woman Stuck in Chair for Months Found `Molded` to Chair

      Residents in a Springfield Township neighborhood had no idea one of their neighbors was living in squalor until emergency vehicles lit up their typically quiet street, the Toledo Blade reported.

      Tribune
    • Brenda Buttner Dies: Fox News ‘Bulls And Bears’ Host Was 55

      Brenda Buttner, host of Fox News Channel's Bulls and Bears , has died after a battle with cancer. She was 55. The news was confirmed by Your World 's Neil Cavuto, who shared a special tribute to Buttner during the show. "She took stock of life much more than any stock in life,” Cavuto said. “It’s what separated her from everyone else in this business. Not just dollars, you see, Brenda had depth." He continued: “Let it be known that Brenda Buttner made us want to watch a…

      Deadline
    • Dear Abby: He keeps insulting wife about her past

      DEAR ABBY: Because I had a promiscuous past prior to getting married, it was understandable that my husband and I have gone through some rough patches. It’s been three years since our wedding, and he still can’t let it go sometimes. A recent argument just escalated into his calling me a whore and stupid. We have a beautiful little girl together, so it’s not like I can just up and go whenever I want. When is enough, enough? Where is the point that I can give in to the thought that I can’t do it anymore? Or is this just what marriage is? We have already done counseling, and it just made it worse. I feel really alone, so can you please give me some feedback? — ROUGH PATCH DEAR ROUGH PATCH: If your

      Chicago Sun-Times q
    • NASA Has Made A Huge Discovery About Planets Outside Our Solar System

      Exoplanets are widely believed to be the best hope of finding life elsewhere in the universe. 

      International Business Times
    • Entertainment Tonight
    • Watch the moment DeMarcus Cousins found out he was traded to New Orleans

      This won’t be the last time DeMarcus Cousins wears a NOLA jersey. New Orleans hosted the NBA’s All-Star Weekend, and then stole headlines away from the festivities just as the game was ending on Sunday night, when the Pelicans agreed to terms with the Sacramento Kings on a deal that would keep three-time All-Star center DeMarcus Cousins in The Big Easy for good. News of the trade, reported by The Vertical’s Adrian Wojnarowski, came down around the same time players were set to meet with the press for postgame interviews.

      Ball Don't Lie
    • Inside Edition
    • One month of Trump: What voters think – and why that matters

      After 30 days in office President Trump has done one thing for sure: He’s polarized American voters more than any US chief executive of the last 30 years. Democrats and Democratic-leaning independents loathe his performance, per approval polls. This is a reminder that most of the people who put Trump in office are content to wait and see how his policies develop.

      Christian Science Monitor
    • All Of Emma Watson’s Looks From The Beauty And The Beast Press Tour (3 photos)

      It’s only T minus 25 days until we get to watch Emma Watson dazzle us on the big screen as Belle in Disney’s new adaptation of Beauty and the Beast. We’ve already gotten sneak peeks of how the actress looks wearing that iconic yellow dress and—allegedly—her rose-covered fairy tale wedding gown, and while we’re admittedly obsessed with the epic costume design in the film, we’re equally excited about the prospect of seeing Watson’s personal style throughout the movie’s press tour. Given the fact that she’s been a muse for major designers and is regularly at the top of best-dressed lists for awards shows and other red carpet events, we know she’s going to serve us some seriously good looks. That said, we’re keeping track of all Emma’s fashions leading up to the film’s release on March 17th, so check back often to see her latest looks as well as what designers she’s wearing.

      The Zoe Report
    • Money
    • David Cassidy: Looking Back at the Former Teen Heartthrob’s Ups and Downs

      The actor had won hearts worldwide as the hunky, young star of The Partridge Family in the 1970s. Despite unbelievable fame, the decades that followed were marked with turmoil for Cassidy, now 66. At the peak of his early career, Cassidy played some 350 concerts in 17 countries while releasing 10 Partridge albums, eight solo albums and 17 singles, PEOPLE reported in 1983.

      People
    • Priscilla Presley Confirms She's Caring for Granddaughters as Lisa Marie Presley’s Husband Is Investigated for Child Abuse

      Priscilla Presley has broken her silence over her daughter Lisa Marie Presley’s bitter custody battle and confirmed she’s caring for her twin granddaughters. “Thank you from the bottom of my heart for “all” your positive support,” she wrote above a photo of the sisters smiling and cuddling one another.

      Us Weekly