Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (Paperback: Pbk: 288 pages)

#1 Maintain a love map: make sure you know the details of your spouse's joys, fears, dreams, and hopes. #2 Foster fondness and admiration: remember and retain a fundamental sense of your spouse's positive attributes. #3 Turn toward instead of away: acknowledge and appreciate each other in your daily interactions. #4 Accept influence: be open to your spouse's input, husbands in particular. #5 Solve solvable conflicts: use Dr. Gottman's proven techniques to resolve issues that can be solved. #6 Cope with conflicts you can't resolve: humor and a positive attitude are two ways of dealing with those intractable problems. #7 Create shared meaning: help fulfill each others dreams and aspirations.